This culture's focus on productivity and busyness seems to dismiss the value, necessity and benefit of solid, restful sleep. 
Sleep is one of the foundations of well-being. Yet, many teenagers, young adults, and adults are sleeping far fewer hours than is recommended. 

If you're feeling tired during the day, or are sleeping six or fewer hours a night, you may want to see a physician to make sure you're well medically. Also, consider choosing one of the tips* below to focus on for the next month so that you can potentially increase the quality of your sleep. 

1. Stick to a sleep schedule of the same bedtime and wake up time, even on the weekends. This helps to regulate your body's clock and could help you fall asleep and stay asleep for the night.
2. Practice a relaxing bedtime ritual. A relaxing, routine activity right before bedtime conducted away from bright lights helps separate your sleep time from activities that can cause excitement, stress or anxiety which can make it more difficult to fall asleep, get sound and deep sleep or remain asleep.
3. If you have trouble sleeping, avoid naps, especially in the afternoon. Power napping may help you get through the day, but if you find that you can't fall asleep at bedtime, eliminating even short catnaps may help.
4. Exercise daily. Vigorous exercise is best, but even light exercise is better than no activity. Exercise at any time of day, but not at the expense of your sleep.
5. Evaluate your room. Design your sleep environment to establish the conditions you need for sleep. Your bedroom should be cool – between 60 and 67 degrees. Your bedroom should also be free from any noise that can disturb your sleep. Finally, your bedroom should be free from any light. Check your room for noises or other distractions. This includes a bed partner's sleep disruptions such as snoring. Consider using blackout curtains, eye shades, ear plugs, "white noise" machines, humidifiers, fans and other devices.
6. Sleep on a comfortable mattress and pillows. Make sure your mattress is comfortable and supportive. The one you have been using for years may have exceeded its life expectancy – about 9 or 10 years for most good quality mattresses. Have comfortable pillows and make the room attractive and inviting for sleep but also free of allergens that might affect you and objects that might cause you to slip or fall if you have to get up during the night.
7. Use bright light to help manage your circadian rhythms. Avoid bright light in the evening and expose yourself to sunlight in the morning. This will keep your circadian rhythms in check.
8. Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and heavy meals in the evening. Alcohol, cigarettes and caffeine can disrupt sleep. Eating big or spicy meals can cause discomfort from indigestion that can make it hard to sleep. If you can, avoid eating large meals for two to three hours before bedtime. Try a light snack 45 minutes before bed if you’re still hungry.
9. Wind down. Your body needs time to shift into sleep mode, so spend the last hour before bed doing a calming activity such as reading. For some people, using an electronic device such as a laptop can make it hard to fall asleep, because the particular type of light emanating from the screens of these devices is activating to the brain. If you have trouble sleeping, avoid electronics before bed or in the middle of the night.
10. If you can't sleep, go into another room and do something relaxing until you feel tired. It is best to take work materials, computers and televisions out of the sleeping environment. Use your bed only for sleep and sex to strengthen the association between bed and sleep. If you associate a particular activity or item with anxiety about sleeping, omit it from your bedtime routine.
11. If you’re still having trouble sleeping, don’t hesitate to speak with your doctor or to find a sleep professional. You may also benefit from recording your sleep in a sleep diary to help you better evaluate common patterns or issues you may see with your sleep or sleeping habits.

* Tips provided courtesy of the National Sleep Foundation: 
   https://www.sleepfoundation.org/

I had the pleasure and honor of being on my good friend's radio show, Radical Advice this week.  The show is live on Tuesdays from 10:00a-12:00p on www.bff.fm and each episode is archived into the iTunes podcast app. Check out the episode, during which we practiced and talked about mindfulness, listened to some music and answered listeners' questions. Find this episode in the October 2017 archives in Itunes:
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/radical-advice/id1259601276

These days, all of us are communicating in various ways, all the time, with many different people.  It may be face to face, on the phone, via email or text, or through social media.  
When you feel negatively affected by what someone communicates to you, your emotions come to the forefront to protect you.  As a side effect, your response may be less skillful and affect the other person negatively.  This can lead to an escalation and prolong the negative feelings cycle.

Below is an acronym that can be useful to practice whenever you are communicating with anyone, via any medium.  It can help you be more kind, clear, considerate and respectful in your message.  It is often helpful to pause, take a breath and check in with yourself prior to your actions.

Before you speak, text, type and/or post, consider:
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T. Is what you’re communicating true? Are you stating a fact or more your opinion or feeling about something?  Check in with yourself and be clear.
H. Is what you’re communicating helpful? Are you helping the other person, yourself or the situation?
I. Is what you’re communicating important?  How important is it and to whom?  Is this something that can wait? 
N. Is it necessary? Check out whether whatever you want to communicate is better left unsaid, or maybe you could benefit from giving yourself some space before you communicate this thing.
K. Is it kind?  Check in about why you’re communicating.  What’s your intention and purpose for this communication at this time?  Will it be of benefit to you, the other person, the relationship?  Is what you’re about to say skillful, respectful and thoughtful?
 
 
 
T.H.I.N.K. is based on a concept originally presented in the 1930s by Herbert J. Taylor

​​I was recently reminded of a parable that some credit to the Native People. I'm not sure where it comes from, but it always strikes a cord within me. Check it out below:

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says, "There are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
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The grandfather quietly replies, "The one you feed."

Next time you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by your internal and/or external environment, try the following coping skill, that has an acronym, S.T.O.P.:

S. Stop.  Stop what you’re doing; put your device down; look up from your screen; pause if you’re moving (as long as it’s safe to do so).

T. Take a breath.  I mean, really, fully.  Fill your abdomen and lungs; breathe in deeply; exhale slowly and steadily.

O. Observe your surroundings.  Take a quick inventory of your environment: use your five senses to connect.  Now check-in with your internal environment.  Do you need to stretch, eat some food, drink some water?  How is your emotional state?  How busy is your mind?

P. Proceed.  Continue with whatever needs your attention next.
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This is a quick way to take a break, check-in with yourself and carry on with your day.  ​

Many of us feel very busy most, if not all of the time.  Recently, a comment from a pre-teen jarred me a bit.  "I'm sorry I haven't called you.  I've been really busy."  It was a little amusing and then I found myself thinking about how this young man hears adults in his life say this, and it may be true as well, that he is busy.  How can adults model and help cultivate a sense of slowing down for themselves and the young people in their lives?

One idea is to have a moment of awareness at the start and end of each day.  When the alarm goes off, check in with what the mind is up to right away.  Do you pick up your device and start working or interacting with others immediately?  Are you already in meetings and/or rushing through the day?  Perhaps take a moment to realize that you're still in your bed.  The invitation here is to take an intentional breath or two before you get out of bed and start your day.
When you land back in your bed at the end of the day, perhaps turn off your device and take a few deep, intentional, aware breaths before you close your eyes and rest.

These simple practices may help start and end your day with a moment of connection, with yourself.

Want to learn more and get support around slowing down and developing more balance in your life?  Call or text  me for a free consultation: 415-533-0405.

I was recently sent a link to the video below.  I found it to be a quick and elegant example of the purpose and benefit of mindfulness practice.  I also enjoyed the youth perspective.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kk7IBwuhXWM#t=133

What are your thoughts about mindfulness?  Does the video help clarify what it might look like?

If you feel stressed, anxious, worried, or want to learn ways to be more relaxed and grounded in your life, email me now to set-up an appointment: olgarocklin@gmail.com.